Every year since I could remember, I would let the my children pick out a Sharing Tree tag that we would fill as a family. It was one of our traditions I wanted to do during the holiday season, to instill in my children the real reason for Christmas.
Overย 4 years ago, I lost 1/2 my income when my ex exited out of my life, leaving me with all the debt and bills.
It was a devastating time for me, only a few months before Christmas. Not only did I have to try to figure out how to pay the monthly bills and keep a roof over my children’s heads, how was I ever going to provide them a Christmas? I couldn’t.
A local community charity reached out to me, asking me if I wanted my family to be “adopted” via the Sharing Tree program. I was also asked by members of my church, what we wanted for Christmas and that they too wanted to “adopt” us for Christmas after they heard from another person of our recent struggles.
A few months later, we had a we a wonderful Christmas.
Since then I continued to get excited when the Sharing Trees at our church goes up and I decided each of us, the children and I, will each have our own Sharing Tree tag to fill. I told my daughters to pick a tag for a child who is the same age or close to their age so they can relate and get excited to pick out the gift. Oh, and that they had to pay for their gift with their own allowance money to truly make it come from them.
We have done this for the past 3 years and the girls enjoy picking out their tag, gift, and wrapping it.
So once again, two weeks ago, the Sharing Trees went up and we went over BEFORE church started so we could pick our tags before other people started to take some. We each picked out our tags. I chose a young mom and both girls chose a child their age. That weekend, we purchased their gifts and wrapped them. We got everything on their list! ๐
Then a few days ago, I was at church with my youngest and noticed there were lingering tags and I became sadden because these children and adults may not have one Christmas gift to open. My heart sank thinking of these children who’s parents may be going through something just as we did 4 short years prior.
I looked them over and grabbed another tag when my daughter asked, “Why are you getting another one? We each did one.”
I asked her if she could remember the first Christmas when it was just the 3 of us, and asked her if she remembered not having presents. She answered no. Then I told her how WE were once on these same trees and generous people out there gave us a wonderful Christmas (that I’m beyond grateful, even to this day) to where my children didn’t notice a change from years past.
“That’s why mom is grabbing another tag.” (I grabbed two, actually – A little girl and little boy.)
She looked over the tags and said, “I’ll do another,” and picked a girl near her age who wanted boots.
My children will learn to give and understand the reason for giving and the importance of it. After what I went through, I am a firm believer of paying it forward, sending good vibes and kindness out into the world that seems filled with selfishness and backstabbing to get ahead.
It’s easy to look around and see people be grumpy, rude, or filled with greed. It’s easy to see ungratefully kids demand the latest toys not understanding the costs of what they are asking for. It’s easy to see people, hands filled with shopping bags, walk past the charities who are standing in front of stores without giving even a smile let alone a few dollars.
My children will be none of those. My children will give, they will learn to true reason for holiday season and guess what….it’s not them. They will be reminded we were helped by generous people who GAVE to us and it’s our duty to GIVE BACK to those who need it as well.